Personality Types Within Relationships – The Enneagram SystemOctober 22, 2018
When I’m meeting couples for the first time, I love watching the nuances of their behaviors as individuals and toward each other. I’m always pondering, “What brings them together?” I’m curious — admittedly to the point of insanity — about our personalities and how we can grow together in all of our relationships without expecting each other to change our personalities per se. How do we decipher changing from growing? I can see when couples just get each other and accept each other and those become my most favorite portrait sessions. I know on the outside, we are cool around other people and we will never know the effort they are putting into making their relationship a healthier one. But I’m honored to capture my couples’ chemistries at this very moment in history as a week or months later, it will shift, regardless of where they are on their journey personally and as a couple.
Are you curious about how your personality matches up next to your partners through the lens of psychological science? Or maybe you’re single and you want to discover more about what motivates or moves or how you can grow personally based on your personality type. Do you want help relating to family members or friends? I’d love to help you get started on achieving any and all of these things through the amazing Enneagram you may have already heard of. It’s helped me understand so much about myself and has been the most effective catalyst for personal change during the last nine years of my life. I’d love to share with you my favorite resources and administer a test that will clarify a lot of questions you may have about yourself. Contact me for more info or to learn about how you and your partner match up based on your personality types and how to know exactly how to understand your relationship so you both grow personally and become even better for each other.
My Infertility Journey – PCOS and EndometriosisOctober 15, 2018
Before there was us, there was me. And I was mine. But what was also mine was my story of loss. A broken marriage and a deep black hole in my heart that tended to swallow up joy for others when they so easily created families together. So my heart aches today for all the mamas and papas who have experienced even greater and unimaginable losses. October 15 is a day to remember each year those who have lost pregnancies and lost their sweet babies far too soon. I honor you today. I love you. In my heart, I wrap my arms around you and pray a special blessing over you — complete healing and good health. You, your partners, and your babies are seen and loved and remembered.
Daddy’s Arms – My Breastfeeding Journey, Tongue Tie, FrenotomyOctober 5, 2018
Daddy’s arms. Since day one my Arly has spent more time in James’ arms than mine. And I’ve made perfect peace with that. Here’s why.
I was adamant about breastfeeding this baby boy as long as I possibly could. I didn’t wait 36 long years of heartbreakingly never believing I’d be able to conceive my own baby to not breastfeed him. I gobbled up all the information and advice about breastfeeding that I could gather. Little did I know this would become our biggest obstacle upon giving birth. Three days old and a single first night alone with us after arriving home from the hospital, I desperately tried to breastfeed my hysterically crying baby all night. The next day, our pediatrician confirmed that Arly was losing weight rapidly. He was starving, actually. And breastfeeding was excruciating. I’m not saying that to scare anyone — I’m telling you because I was told that it was not normal to feel pain and that I was just being “sensitive” because I was a new mom. I went to two other lactation consultants (who basically told me that I was new-mom exaggerating our symptoms) before finding our third-times-a-charm IBCLC who took one look at his mouth and immediately diagnosed the issue. His physician confirmed tongue tie. His was so severe, Dr. Ghaheri’s office said they could get us in for a frenotomy the next day. We opted for a local procedure with a pediatrician we trusted (if you’re in Bend, we adore Dr. Kristi Nix). His tongue tie was clipped and we began painful mouth stretches for weeks while I spent every three hours pumping (i.e. 2 hour breaks only) for an hour to produce STILL not enough milk for his feedings. So Arlyss was in James’ arms for bottle feedings of my breastmilk while I pumped non-stop. His bond with his daddy is so strong and special because of this.
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Ecopsychology: Let My Babies Run FreeSeptember 7, 2018
Our home owners rescinded our lease extension, leaving us frantically searching for a new place. Thankfully, we were accepted into a home nearby. But it got me thinking. We live in the same kind of family neighborhood. Everyone has ridiculously small yards. It’s just a reminder that Louv is right, we’re at an “end of an era of free land” in his book, Last Child in the Woods. There is no new frontier. Where once natural environments were accessible from our front door step, now the same land has been replaced by fences and concrete and neighbors on all sides. I grew up riding my bike — rain or shine — with my sis and neighborhood friends all over the place. We’d play by the irrigation ditch. I’d spend all afternoon running through the woods nearby with my best friend, making bows and arrows out of twigs and old string. We got dirty. We made stuff up.
I long for our children to have the same perception of open spaces. I want them to be inventive. I want the days to pass quickly while they get their hands dirty and their imaginations full. I encourage natural play. I want them to grow up not being severed from food origins and have a deeper understanding of our relationship with other species. I don’t want them to fear nature, I want them to respect Her. Exposing ourselves to nature is what we often do when we are done doing all other things that consume our daily lives. We’ve lost balance in our lifestyles — we and our children spend so much time participating in rigidly organized activities that children are losing time which could be spent participating in highly and purposefully unorganized play that natural environments facilitate. This kind of play nurtures creativity and wonder! Louv argues that children “losing themselves” in nature is essential for healthy development because they “stimulate all the senses and integrate informal play with formal learning.” These experiences harness the power of the imagination as the environment provides the ideal setting to be creative.
What were your childhood days spent doing?
What do you want for your kiddos?